Welcome to my site where hopefully I will be able to explain a little about me and why I have a desire to wear clothes of the opposite sex. First of all I'll try to answer a few of the common questions I have been asked.

Are you male or female ?  I prefer to think of myself as being dual-sexual (if such a category exists!!) I think that we are classed as having "Gender Dysphoria" which in my simple brain means that we like to take on both gender roles now and again but still remain the gender we were born. Take me for example...I'm very happily married to a wonderful lady and I can truly say that I'm proud to be her husband. I have grown children and am equally proud to be their father. . When I walk through a shopping mall, yes, I do look at women and yes I do envy their soft sensual clothes and their looks. Gay men or women ONLY prefer people that are the same sex but we are gifted and can get on famously with either sex, depending on which gender role we choose at that moment. What more could you want?

But you like to wear women's clothes ? Almost correct !  I love to wear women's clothes BUT it has nothing to do with any sexual feeling at all. I can transform myself into another person filled with sensuality and beauty. I can truly feel liberated and freed from the stereo-typed attire that us guys are "expected" to conform to, whether we like it or not. We are expected to go out in a pair of shorts, T-shirt and sneakers with our hair roughly combed. Do we have a choice? Not at all..We can wear a blue shorts or the grey ones because "heaven forbid what the neighbours might say" if we even ventured out in anything that didn't conform to "male standards". Your better half, on the other hand, can pull on a pair of faded denim jeans and a T-shirt with a surfing motif, pull a baseball cap over her head and she's accepted. She can also don a smart trouser suit, pile her hair into a bun and she's instantly recognised as a successful business woman. Let's face it, she's wearing our gear and she gets away with it.  Yeah, I know that the statistics say that as high as 50% of men have cross-dressed at one time or the other but it's also true to say that almost 90% of women cross-dress most of the time ! Amazingly enough it is thought that as many as 1 in 20 normal everyday men are crossdressers so the next time you get a ticket from that burly and arrogant cop, Jack, He just could just be the feminine and elegant Jackie once he is home and a real pussycat to boot!! Changing roles is a well established method of reducing stress and a lot of men in high stress careers use it to maintain their balance. As a computer programmer I sometimes have high stress and deadlines to meet and instead of sweating it out on the computer and getting nowhere fast, I take a half hour to slip into my "femme" role, all the worries melt away and I can complete my project in record time with a fresh mind.

But you WANT to look like a woman ?  I envy women for the way they look. The soft fabrics, the flowing designs and the correct cut. The feel of a soft silky fabric against your skin is, to us, an indescribable sensation. The freedom to make up your face to complement your clothes is a natural progression so we develop this "second person" whom we become if and when the circumstances permit. Let's face it, no self respecting women would go to all the effort of dressing in a stunning evening gown and then venture out with unkempt hair, no makeup and wearing a pair of her gardening sneakers, who she ? so it's the "all or nothing" syndrome that applies here for cross-dressers as well. Since we WANT to feel good then there is really no sense in doing things in half measures is there ? BUT no, I don't want to undergo surgery so the "all" doesn't go THAT far. Some cross-dressers ARE transexual and eventually become women but the vast majority just remain the gender they were born with and enjoy their occasional "femme" role as and when the need arises. Besides I enjoy shopping (even if it's window shopping) and don't have to restrict myself to the "Tools and Hardware" department of the store to enjoy just looking and appreciating. I pride myself in the fact that I can go and buy my better half's makeup and pantyhose AND know what size and colour to get.  Maybe, one day she will even realise that when I say that I like her nail colour, that I REALLY DO mean it and am not giving the usual male "uncommitted" response!

What makes us do it ?  The problem is said to be genetic..yep way, way back when we were in our Mother's womb. All babies, at conception are essentially female.The massive hormone dose that an unborn baby is subjected to around the 6th week of the pregnancy, determines not only our physical characteristics but also our mental ones too. Males that are prone to cross-dressing usually receive the correct dose to develop their physical traits but a far weaker dose that is necessary to switch the female brain into a male one with better spatial skills and less emotion, necessary for the primal task of the male to act as the food gatherer and protector. Cross-dressers, on average, have more feminine traits (nope it STILL doesn't make them gay!!) and more often than not a greater intelligence. (I have an IQ of around 125-135 which doesn't exacly classify me as dumb!) Apart from that, their nature is often more gentle and more caring and sensitive than their beer-swilling and macho counterparts. Also the fact that your Father was a bit of a ladies man or your Mother was over-protective has nothing to do with the way we are.